I haven’t seen you for months. The last time was your 21st birthday. I felt like a ghost gate-crashing a party for the living, and my God, were you living. The partying never ended for you that summer.

At the door of the restaurant a waitress greeted me as though I’d come to inspect the food hygiene. You’d told me it was a ‘club’ not a restaurant.

'Restaurants are for dead people,’ you said.

​I gave the waitress my jacket. She held it as though it was contaminated and looked around as if someone might help. I took it back and told her not to worry.

​‘I’m with my daughter Holly’s party,’ I said.

​She led me to your table. I felt invisible. The high-pitched laughter and clang of beer bottles. You’d told me before to not say things like ‘what happened to drinking from glasses.’ You said it made me sound like an old fart. I was determined not to say anything old fart-ish.

​‘Benjamin!’ you screamed. I’m not calling you ‘Daddy’ now I’m twenty-one you’d said.

​‘Everybody, say hello to Benjamin!’ Beer bottles raised and clinked. I tried laughing, but it came out as a cough.

​'Twenty-one years ago, Benjamin had something to do with me being here,’ you shouted.

Your friends jeered and I felt my face redden. Like being called out for an illicit sex act with your mother. Your mother would have been better at all this. I would have stood behind her and smiled, and paid the bill, and called the taxis, and felt I’d played my small part well enough. Now I have to play one of the lead roles, but can’t learn the lines.

​I sat down next to you. You introduced me to people whose names I instantly forgot.

‘Benjamin, you have to start with a Stinger,’ you said and waved at the waitress.

I must have looked at you in that way you say is ‘demented’.

‘Russian vodka with a drizzle of bitters. Keep up, Benjamin,’ you said.

‘We called it Pink Gin,’ I said, ‘although it had gin, not vodka.’ I’d said something old fart-ish already.

We’ve ordered sliders for everyone,’ you said, or was it slippers, I can’t remember. Small hamburgers, but I didn’t feel I could say that.

I tried to talk to you about your mother. How she would have loved this moment. How much she would have loved your boyfriend, but I must remember to say partner. But you didn’t want to talk about your mother.

‘Lighten up, Benjamin,’ you said.

I drank too much. I couldn’t keep up with all the conversations. Too many voices and my ears can’t cope. I watched you be like your mother was when she was twenty-one. The centre of everything. But she had always held my hand under the table. I held on to my jacket on my lap.

You followed me out of the restaurant to my taxi. We hugged each other and your thin body shook with sobs. You held me so tight.

‘Come home with me, Holly,’ I said. ‘You don’t have to move in with him. Take a few days to decide.’

‘No, I’m fine, Daddy,’ you said, ‘really, I’m fine.’